There is so much planning and emotional content to moving far away. What about the furniture? Who will be our doctor? Do we take the cat? What about our kids? Yes, what about our kids.
CollegeBoy is easy. He is beginning to find his dream, has figured out something he is very good at and this summer will expose the real world to the marketing possibilities of social media and social networking. With only one year of college left, he is planning to live in NYC and take the Big Apple Challenge – the “If you can make it there, you can make it anywhere” test. I have no doubts he will succeed and really enjoy very much whatever the challenges he accepts. He is checked off our list.
But what about MillieJupiter? She is an adult. She has a job that she loves and is good at and where her skills are respected. She has lived with us since returning from college because mostly, Librarian is wonderfully fulfilling work except in the wallet area. This past few years have been nice, having her home again. I missed her so much when she went to college. Hell I balled like a baby for 4 hours when we helped her move from her college life to her first apartment. We welcomed her home when it didn’t work out and despite some rocky times, we all lived happily ever after or at least until our retirement plans require us to move across the country. This has been a rough patch for us all. She did not want to leave her job and relocate. Finances were tight and she would have a great deal of trouble affording her own place. So we looked and prodded and hoped and then Mrsfabp stumbled upon a possibility (extra kudos to Mrsfabp here) and MJ liked it a lot and can afford it and is content with entering into a roommate situation again and in just a few short days, she’s moving out.
Already I feel the tears but not just because we will miss her. I am happy she is taking this step into adulthood that we all need to take. We will always be there for her, even if we’re 2000 miles away because that’s what we do, that’s who we are. She has an ever expanding life and is growing up more each day. This will be good for her and for us. Knowing she is settled and safe is a load off my mind. Enough to make a tear or two about. Yes, she is leaving home, but in some ways she is going home too. And I feel good about that.
2 comments:
Gosh, things are really falling into place, aren't they? Changes for everybody.
By all means, bring the cat. You'll need the continuity, and so will s/he.
Such a nice post, Pat. I wonder why it is so hard for us and for her. Maybe because she was our first baby.
I can't wait till she visits us in Las Cruces!
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